I was moved by a TikTok video I saw recently. It featured Ellie Midds, a neurodiversity advocate and speaker who laid out a framework that seems straightforward enough and can fundamentally shift how we communicate with one-another, especially in the context of the workplace and in the classroom. In her video, the speaker said that she works best when someone communicates with her in a ‘what by when and why basis’. She further explained that she asks, “What exactly do you need from me? When exactly do you need each of those things by? And why do you need each of those things?“